Motivated kids: Cerebral Palsy
Career Builder for Elementary School

Motivated kids thrive on encouragement, love, learning and conversation with you, as a career-coaching parent. Those positive experiences are especially important for your elementary student with cerebral palsy (CP).

My little successes

During my early grades, my mom seemed like she was always helping me prepare for the day when I could live an independent life. In fact, as I look back, I can trace my “entrepreneurial spirit” back to her tutorage.  I remember her helping me:

  • Plan and plant an herb garden every year while I was in grade school so I could give not-so-common herb samples to my school teachers, neighbors, house parents etc. every holiday season.
  • Make a variety of reed baskets by soaking the reeds in our upstairs bathtub and turning the bathroom into a mini-manufacturing room from which I gave (and sometimes sold) examples of my handiwork.
  •  Learn photography and the difference between a photo essay and photo story through my photography project in 4-H.

Those little successes (which I still vividly recall six decades later) gave me the motivation to eventually tackle the mainstream job market and start my own business, even though I had CP.

Motivated kids have an internal desire or need that energizes their lives and gives them direction. Many believe that it is more important than natural ability or aptitude. But, no one has really discovered how an individual acquires personal motivation, writes Geoff Colvin in his book, "Talent Is Overrated: What Really Separates World-Class Performers from Everybody Else " (Penguin Group, 2010).

State of Oregon school psychologists admit that, at some point in your youngster’s development, you will probably feel that your youngster lacks sufficient motivation. Most parents face this worry that their son or daughter kid is not motivated.

Different "signs" may trigger this concern. Your youngster may seem turned off by everything, may complain excessively about school or home life, may drop out of activities, or act particularly bored with routine and non-routine events.

It’s important not to react in ways that might actually make the problem worse. After all, encouragement, not criticism, inspires us all, particularly motivated kids. When you criticize even constructively, your youngster is often discouraged and less motivated to do what is expected.

To this day, I remember my mom saying,” You’re not doing well today with your speech,” because I internalized what I took as criticism. I have difficulty recalling when she said, “You’re speech was particularly clear today.”

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Motivated Kids: Elementary girl taking notes from iPad.

When motivated kids do well

On the other hand, by noticing and encouraging good behavior, youngsters typically repeat that good behavior. Motivated kids feel good about themselves, their behaviors improve as the improvements are recognized, and their motivation increases.

All motivational problems are not simply solved, of course, and can require professional help. But, you, as a career-coaching parent, can make a huge impact by focusing on and supporting what your youngster does well.  

In addition to providing encouragement, parents of motivated kids who do well in elementary school or outside activities tend to:

  • Show love by providing support for youngster as they develop their interests.
  • Teach responsibility by acknowledging positive behavior in completing chores, completing homework and participating in social activities.
  • Be a role model by valuing education, exhibiting family values and modeling expected behavior.

  • Provide a range of experiences through sports, music, volunteer activities, and travel so youngsters discover and develop their strengths, bolster their self-confidence and acquire the motivation to do more.
  • Talk to their youngster about activities, schoolwork, friends, and interests as well as listen as he or she discusses these topics.
  • Be aware of potential issues by recognizing the general problems and pressures their youngster may face (and need help with) while facing the challenges of growing up.

Of course, growing up with CP means your youngster will probably face a whole range of other challenges specific to CP.

So, cultivating an open dialogue about those specific issues and how to resolve them as well as about general “growing up” questions can often be critical in determining how effectively your youngster makes the eventual transition from school to work.

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Originally written and illustrated by Jim Hasse, ABC, GCDF, owner of Hasse Communication Counseling, LLC, who, as a person with cerebral palsy, served for 10 years as a vice president in a Fortune 500 company during his 29-year career in corporate communication. He’s an Accredited Business Communicator, certified as a Global Career Development Facilitator and author of 14 Amazon books about disability awareness and disability employment issues.

Break Out: Finding Freedom When You Don’t Quite Fit the Mold” is a modern memoir of Jim Hasse’s 51 personal-experience stories as a person with a disability about what it means to be “too different” in a society with a penchant for conformity and tribalism.

Break Out was first published in 1996, but Jim's collection of 51 true stories are even more relevant today (in the light of our current political and cultural climate) than it was back then.

Take a look at this section of his 1996 Preface to the book:

"In a divided world and country, extremist views, quick answers and homogenized insights often get the press coverage and broadcast time. 'Maybe' and 'I don't know yet" take too much time and are too tentative. They garner little credibility in much of the media.

"Yet, on a personal level, most of us live with a larger reality. A part of our journey through life is settling for temporary "maybe" answers about who we are and who we can become. That's especially true when we need to face fundamental questions about how we can deal effectively with false assumptions about ourselves (and the presumptions others may form about us) because we don't quite fit accepted norms." 

Only two copies of this paperback are available on Amazon. Or, pick up your FREE copy (one of 192 remaining copies from the first printing) at Disability Pride Madison on July 27.

Jim writes:

“I now look at Break Out  as a treasure-trove for those who specialize in narrative therapy within the disability community.

"After 20 years of publishing Break Out, I have revisited each of these stories and published a series of eBooks that include the original stories but add my after-thoughts about what each episode really meant in my struggle with vulnerability.

"For those of us with disabilities, this  new series of 'updates' provides examples  of how to shape our life stories for greater well-being."