The career test for your middle school youngster with cerebral palsy (CP) is taking 20 career building steps -- all based on the road map (see my 20 articles) outlined by National Career Development Guidelines.
I didn’t get what I consider my true career test (my Myers-Briggs personality profile) until much later in life.
I was 35 in 1978. By that time, I was emerging as a manager of a corporate communication department, hiring professionals as well as high school and summer interns to do the “hands-on” work I had been doing as a “one-person department” for 13 years.
To my surprise (and relief), I had fallen into an occupation that fits nicely with my temperament (despite my physical disabilities): using writing as a means of communication. I had unknowingly “done well” on my career test, one of the first instruments a career counselor usually provides a student or client, without even taking it when I was in seventh or eighth grade.
I’m an INFJ, one of 16 temperament styles Dr. David Keirsey and Dr. Marilyn Bates, California State University (Fullerton), identified in “Please Understand Me” (Premetheus Nemesis Books,1978).
According to my temperament type, I place people and their concerns as being the highest priority in any situation. I’m empathetic, intuitive, enjoy “possibility thinking” and creativity and can “read” other people accurately. But, I’m also a perfectionist and, at times, too demanding of others (check particularly with Pam, my wife). I’m not a visible leader but prefer to influence events behind the scenes. I’m a rather private person.
The bottom line is that my Myers-Briggs career test shows I’m good at public relations and interpersonal relationships. And, in surprising ways, my temperament and hard-won capabilities seem to (in some ways) complement and (in other ways) over-ride my vulnerabilities.
For instance, as a manager (and later vice president) of a corporate communication department for a Fortune 500 company, I was perfectly comfortable with delegating unusual authority (and giving accolades) to individuals on my staff. These were abled people who, for instance, spoke more effectively and who conducted a photo shoot more effectively than I could.
Did I plan my career based on my temperament style? No. When I first started working, I didn't know what a career test was.
Looking back, that now scares the willies out of me. What if I had decided to an accountant? Knowing what I know now about career test options, I would have been frustrated in my work and bored to death.
According to a series of Gallup Polls in the 1980s and 1990s, more than 70 percent of working adults wish they could start over. If they could, they would use more and better information in making their decisions.
But, somehow, for me, the right things fell in the right places at the right time. Career theorist Dr. John D. Krumboltz calls it “happenstance learning theory” – that we should be open to future career opportunities that will come our way that we can’t even imagine right now.
I can relate to happenstance. Who wants to be bogged down by the results of one career test anyway?
At birth, I was dealt a handful of cards that didn't add up to much at the time. My brain injury could have left me deaf, speechless, spastic beyond any control or mentally disabled. The capabilities, both mentally and physically, I received at birth depended on what portion of my brain was damaged.
Happenstance gave me an unusual combination of muscles that are, in some cases, too relaxed and, in other instances, too rigid; a set of motor skills that are severely affected but not too limiting; and a degree of intelligence that was not touched by my birth injury.
So, the chances of developing a somewhat "normal" life were slim, possible but not probable. But, that's what kept me in the game: the element of surprise.
What is particularly surprising to me that, as part of my “second” career, I find myself writing to you, a mom who wants to coach your youngster with CP in building a meaningful career.
I need to quote what Keirsey and Bates write in their book about people like me who are INFJs:
“Their great talent for language usually is directed toward people, describing people and writing to communicate with people in a personalized way … As therapists, INFJs may choose counseling, clinical psychology or psychiatry or may choose to teach in those fields. Writing about those professions often intrigues an INFJ.”
I’m amazed that I’m again inadvertently taking another step that is in line with my temperament style.
So, I am communicating with you about how to be a career-builder mom in cyberspace -- an opportunity that would have been a “pipe dream” for me in 1978 when I had no concept of career counseling or disability employment issues or the Internet. At the time, I was focused on building a staff and helping my CEO gain believability and trust among the various stakeholders of our organization.
But, 16 years later, I was ready to “jump ship” and start a new career in what I thought was to be helping college students with disabilities prepare for the mainstream-work world I had known for almost 29 years.
Based on experience (my own career test), I now know how I can best devote my energies in raising the employment level of individuals with disabilities: showing you what I have learned about what works (and does not work) in helping your youngster with CP build a meaningful career.
According to the National Career Development Guidelines (NCDG), these are the 11 career development competencies your youngster can develop at the “knowledge acquisition” level during middle/junior high school:
I follow the NCDG framework for each of these five stages in your youngster’s development:
As your youngster progresses through each of these five developmental milestones, I’ll show you the barriers I personally encountered (and worked around) and the options you and your youngster can consider for your own “workarounds.”
Specifically, I have divided the NCDG competencies for your middle school student into two sets of 10 disability-focused articles.
One set is based on self-confidence, and the other set is focused on competitive advantage for your elementary school youngster:
10 career builders which foster your youngster’s self-confidence. These include developing:
10 career builders which provide opportunities to discover a personal competitive edge. These include developing:
In essence, each of these career builders is a career test for your youngster with cerebral palsy during middle/junior high school.
Since 1997, I’ve met many accomplished people with CP who are successfully working within a wide variety of occupations. On this site, you’ll find their success stories (and how their parents and other mentors have helped them succeed).
Follow me, and you and your youngster with CP will also have the opportunity to share your views about specific mentoring issues as well as personal success stories with others facing some of your same challenges.
You'll have the opportunity to grow together within each of the above stages of
discovery and learning -- which is truly a career test.